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Bingo, Business Casual & the Pattern You've Been Running Since 2019

Published 4 months ago • 2 min read

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Monday Morning Translation

67% of employees say their manager's stress level directly affects their own ability to concentrate at work. Not their workload. Not their deadlines. Their manager's stress level. — American Psychological Association, Work & Wellbeing Survey, 2023

Your pattern is not a private event. It never was.
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Discomfort in Business Casual

The Receipts

Theranos didn't fail because of fraud alone. It failed because nobody in the room could tell Elizabeth Holmes the truth.

This is the extreme version. The everyday version is a team that stopped bringing you their real problems sometime in the last six months and you haven't quite noticed yet.

Your Pattern Is Showing

Tiny Rebellion Against Cortisol

MOVE YOUR BODY

The language of the body is movement (not thinking).
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The fastest way to move stress out of your body is movement. This doesn't mean that you have to go out and run 5 miles. Here are some simple movement tricks that you can complete in 60 seconds to 5 minutes:

  • Jumping Jacks: No, for real. Close your office door and do 10 jumping jacks next to your desk between Zoom calls.
  • Walk Outside: This one is a triple whammy of wellness. Sunshine, fresh air, and movement. It doesn't have to be a long walk. Just going outside for a few minutes can help reset your nervous system.
  • Shaking: Make your hands really loose and SHAKE THEM for 30 seconds or until you feel something shift in your body.

Why This Works:

Stress isn’t just a thought—it’s a full-body experience. When tension builds up, your nervous system primes you for action (fight, flight, or freeze), but in modern life, we rarely actually run away from our overflowing inbox. Movement gives your body a chance to complete the stress cycle, telling your brain, “We handled it, we’re safe.” Even small bursts—jumping, shaking, stepping outside—are enough to break the loop. Think of it as hitting the “reset” button on your body before stress gets stuck.
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Try it now, and notice the shift.

Ok, But Actually
"The most transformative and resilient leaders I've worked with have one thing in common: they've excavated their own darkness enough to know it by name. Not to fix it. To use it." — Adam Grant, Think Again, 2021

Your pattern isn't the problem. Running it unconsciously is. The same wiring that creates your shadow is also the reason people follow you.

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The Human Solution

Leadership is a Science. Tactical Emotional Intelligence™ is the Formula.

Leadership isn’t just a title. It’s a skill. And too often, managers are promoted for their individual contributions—then left to figure out leadership on their own. That’s a recipe for burnout, discomfort, and a whole lot of stress. At The Human Solution, we believe management is a professional skill set in its own right. And if you want to build high-performing teams and create a culture that thrives, your managers need the right tools—not just instincts.

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